Let the children laugh

19 06 2014

Let the children laugh and be glad.

Oh my dear, they haven’t long before the world assaults them. Allow them genuine laughter now. Laugh with them, till tears run down your faces–till a memory of pure delight and precious relationship is established within them, indestructible, personal and forever.

Soon enough they’ll meet faces unreasonably enraged. Soon enough they’ll be accused of things they did not do. Soon enough they will suffer guilt at the hands of powerful people who can’t accept their own guilt and who must dump it, therefore, on the weak. In that day the children must be strengthened by self-confidence so they can resist the criticism of fools. But self-confidence begins in the experience of childhood.

So give your children (your grandchildren, your neices and nephews, the children of your neighbors and your community) golden days, their own pure days, in which they are so clearly and dearly beloved that they believe in love and in their own particular worth when love shall seem in short supply hereafter. Give them laughter.

Observe each child with individual attention to learn what triggers the guileless laugh in each. Is it a story? A game? Certain family traditions? Excursions? Elaborate fantasies? Simple winks? What?

Do that thing.

Because the laughter that is so easy in childhood must echo its encouragement a long, long time. A lifetime.





Father and son

18 06 2014

What Commitment





If only

12 06 2014

Seize the day people





Fatherhood article I wrote for Jozikids

10 06 2014

http://www.zaparents.com/2014/06/09/fatherhood-youre-in-it-for-life/

 

 





Watch it all , ponder deeply and ACT.. engage with people

10 06 2014





FATHERHOOD

9 06 2014

Fatherhood:  “the state of being a father.”

State suggests that you are in it for life??

So what does it really mean.. Quite frankly, it changes every day according to your kids age, gender, mood or feelings. BUT whatever it means, YOU SIGNED UP FOR IT, so give it your all.

You might not have all the answers when they ask the questions, but you have experience, lean on it.

I have learnt to learn from my kids.. they will say to me, Hey Dad, just chill, after a long days work.. And I do..

When you watch them play sport, don’t try and live your unfulfilled dreams through your kids.. expose them to a wide variety of sports/arts or past-times, let them make their own choices and support them (DON’T PUSH THEM completely.

The most important thing lacking in this electronic age, is MINDFULLNESS.

When your kids talk to you, or walk up to you when the TV is on, or you are on your phone, tablet or laptop.. do you put everything aside and really listen, spend time in the moment, in THEIR moment, do they FEEL that, for the time that they need, you belong to them?? Or have you turned the TV down but are still watching.. the cellphone is on the couch next to you, and you keep glancing at it.. When you are at a restaurant with the family, are you really there??

What are you signalling to them, the match is more important than you, the next email or phone call I get is more important than you.. I will give you as long as it takes for the next try to be scored or email to come through… and we wonder why we have a generation of children, searching for answers and acceptance in all the wrong places??

We are in a crisis, with a fatherless generation wandering around malls with cash, looking for the security and comfort that they should be getting at home, or with family, at the mall, together..

 

Please Dads, be engaged, and when it gets tough? When you have had a party the night before a big event that your kid is involved in (and you are quite entitled to).. get up early and support them.. remember.. its what you signed up for.. do you give your kids the same attention and urgency as you do your work.. if not.. your work is meaningless.

We are raising future leaders, lets give them the best chance that we can..





Slow down

10 01 2014

Don’t let life rush by, there is always music, stop and dance to it,
unashamedly.








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